What I Learned About Serendipity
Micah and I aren’t the typical type of friends who would see each other often or send spontaneous messages and say “Coffee date, G?” Instead, I think our friendship is due to circumstance, or rather, serendipity, as we’d often bump into each other while commuting to school, until eventually, to work.
On one of the times we saw each other on the train ride to work, I remember our conversation clearly. Micah wasn't happy with her job. It wasn't that the work and company didn't promise her a stable career and all. It's just that, she was looking for something else, and there was that nagging feeling inside her that was urging her to pursue it.
And today I am thrilled to say that she has gone far and beyond, has found her true calling and is continuously following where her heart leads her—Micah has become a healer, a light worker, yoga instructor, Reiki master, a gift to the world!
Early last month, my friend Meryl and I (we, on the other hand, are the “Coffee date, G?” types) were fortunate to have attended her very brief yet insightful talk on serendipity. And upon getting there, I experienced a true-to-life lesson on serendipity myself.
It was early morning and the rain poured, making the queues to the train longer and crazier than usual. Silly me gave up at once and booked a car instead. At first, it was a chill ride, passing by the all too familiar traffic in EDSA. Playlist for the day (and almost everyday) was Ultraelectromagneticpop!, where I was amusing myself with the way Buddy Zabala played his bass guitar. It felt good.
That is, until we got around the Ortigas area and it seemed to me like we were going off track our destination. So I politely asked the driver his plans, and he replied matter-of-factly that he was simply following Waze. I told him we should just stick to the EDSA route, and so he did. We finally got to Ayala, a place I'm definitely more familiar with, and where the event's venue was. But then the driver got our car on a lane meant for public vehicles and was apprehended by the police. His license was confiscated.
Further down the road, I felt his slight panic, so I let him be, assuming that Waze was leading him in the right direction. Or so I thought. Being extremely terrible with directions myself, it took me a while to notice that we were completely lost, so much that were actually headed for the south expressway, which is absolutely unfamiliar territory for me!
To be honest, I freaked out internally and felt a bit angry towards the driver. He got us lost, first and foremost, and I thought I wouldn't make it in time for Micah's talk. So on my end, all I could think of was how it was to become a wasted morning. I wasted time and I wasted effort. But serendipity, of course, has it's own ways. Call it divine intervention, the Holy Spirit, my own conscience, what have you, but a voice inside me nudged me back to my senses, my head cleared, and the anger dissipated.
So I politely asked the driver where Waze was directing him to, and even backed up our route with GoogleMaps on my phone. Surprisingly, the driver was calm and he allowed me to take over and direct him. He admitted his mistake and stopped pretending he knew the way. Long story short, we made it back to Ayala, and in the nick of time!
As I entered the venue, the first question we were asked was, "What makes your heart sing?" Of course my answer was Tindahan Ni Aling Nene because it was the song I last listened to, and literally made my heart (and mind!) sing. Moral of the story? Well, first was not letting the negative emotions take over. Good job to me! Second was trusting that I'll make it, no matter the circumstances. And third was letting serendipity do its job.
Serendipity was certainly working, full force. What Micah shared were life lessons, which I'm certain would go beyond our tita years, I promise, and I feel fortunate to be able share them with you here. It may not be as beautiful as Micah herself said it, but I'll try my best:
Coming from the belief of past lives and the traveling souls, we are advised to listen to our soul because it has lived for ages, and therefore it has wisdom. At the end of the day, we all have to believe in a greater being, be it God, nature, the universe, karma, the divine spirits, what have you. We may or may not believe in any of these, but then what's common in all of us is that we all have our soul—our inner self, if you may, that we can turn to and listen to, and allow it to direct us in life.
Being a personal advocate of me-times and self-reflection, yes, I do believe it is healthy to take the time to isolate ourselves from outside noise. It remains one of the best ways we can be alone with ourselves and truly listen to what our heart, our innermost desires, is saying.
I used to categorize the people I meet based on how they would seem kind-hearted or not. Myself included, and based on my banko of evil thoughts that I often keep to myself, you can probably guess which category I placed myself in.
So what Micah said was a total revelation, and I was glad to know that all hearts are pure. We have to learn to listen to its desires, and follow it. Because the more we stray from it, the more we become corrupt, and by then, we are allowing yourself to be led and consumed by other things which are not meant for us. This explains why at time, our intentions and desires would lean towards what is unkind and unpleasant, and seemingly evil.
Micah said that the universe loves those who commit, and it will work with and for us if we let it. So we shouldn’t ever think that “the universe is against us” because such situations are simply detours that lead us to the better path. If we find ourselves in a toxic situation, a place that no longer makes our heart flutter, or work that weakens the fire burning inside us, then we should let go of it. By all means, we should leave and let go of everything not meant for us, to make space within ourselves for good things. And only good things.